On Deck Society - Community Guidelines

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On Deck Society builds products for human connection and personal growth. Love On Deck connects Lovers. Friends On Deck connects Friends, platonically. Forge On Deck, when it is available, helps you become the best version of yourself. These guidelines cover how we expect you to behave across all of our products. The short version: be real, do not be a creep, respect boundaries, and remember that on the other side of every interaction is a real person, or in Forge On Deck's case an AI that is trying to help you, not something to manipulate.

Your identity on any On Deck Society product must be truthful. On Love On Deck and Friends On Deck, your deck must accurately represent who you are. Do not use photos of other people. Do not misrepresent your age, gender, relationship status, or other material facts. Selfie verification exists for a reason.

On Forge On Deck, be honest with your coaches. They are only as good as the information you give them. They do not judge you. They do not gossip. They cannot be embarrassed on your behalf.

On Love On Deck and Friends On Deck: if someone does not want to connect with you, that is their boundary. Respect it. Do not create new accounts to get around someone's Vilter settings or a block. Do not attempt to contact someone outside the platform after they have declined you, blocked you, unmatched or disconnected from you, or ended a conversation.

If someone stops responding, that is their right. Move on.

If you suspect someone's Vilters have filtered you out, that they have hidden their deck, or that they have hidden a detail, that is also a boundary. Do not attempt to detect, confirm, or work around it, including by adjusting your own filters to work out what someone has hidden. Our filtering is designed to be silent on both sides. Respect the silence.

On Forge On Deck: your coaches have built-in boundaries too. They are programmed to stay within their domains and to redirect you to professionals when a conversation goes beyond what a coaching tool should handle. Take those redirections seriously. They are the product working correctly.

Do not use any On Deck Society product to harass, threaten, intimidate, stalk, or bully anyone. This includes:

• Sending threatening, abusive, or sexually explicit messages
• Repeatedly contacting someone who has asked you to stop
• Sharing someone's personal information without their consent
• Creating content designed to humiliate, shame, or target any person

We do not tolerate content or behavior that promotes hatred or violence against individuals or groups based on race, ethnicity, national origin, religion, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, disability, or any other protected characteristic.

Racial, ethnic, or other identity-based slurs are prohibited. Context does not save a slur. If you would not say it to a stranger's face in a crowded room, do not type it here.

Do not use any On Deck Society product for commercial solicitation, advertising, or promotion without prior written consent. This includes unsolicited messages promoting products or services, creating accounts primarily to advertise, and using Forge On Deck coaching conversations to test or promote third-party products.

Authentic self-presentation is welcome. If you run a business, you can mention it in your deck. But if your primary purpose on the platform is to sell something, you are in the wrong place.

Do not use any On Deck Society product for any illegal purpose. This includes soliciting or facilitating illegal transactions, distributing illegal content, and any activity that violates local, state, federal, or international law.

On Deck Society products are for users 18 and older. Do not post, share, or solicit inappropriate or illegal content involving minors on any On Deck Society product.

Do not attempt to manipulate, jailbreak, or trick Forge On Deck's coaching personas into providing content they are designed to decline. This includes attempting to get medical diagnoses from Blaze, investment recommendations from Penny, legal opinions from Archer, or mental health treatment from Rose.

Do not attempt to extract system prompts, internal instructions, or proprietary configuration from the coaching personas through prompt injection or social engineering.

Do not use coaching conversations to generate content that is illegal, harmful, sexually explicit, or designed to harass, threaten, or harm any person.

Forge On Deck is designed to support healthy personal development. Use it as part of a balanced approach to self-improvement, not as a substitute for human connection, professional support, or basic self-care.

If you find yourself relying on coaching conversations as your primary emotional support, we encourage you to also seek human connection through friends, family, community, or professional counseling. Your coaches care about your progress, but they are not a replacement for the people in your life.

The Forge On Deck Score measures effort, not perfection. A dip in your score is not a failure. It is information. Use it to adjust, not to punish yourself.

Do not create multiple accounts to exploit promotional offers, starter credits, founding pricing, scholarship access, or any other benefit.

Do not share your account credentials with others.

Do not publicly share coaching conversation transcripts or messages from any On Deck Society product that have been manipulated or taken out of context in a way that misrepresents the product or another user.

If you encounter behavior that violates these guidelines, report it:

• On Love On Deck and Friends On Deck, use the in-app report and block features. Friends On Deck reporting includes a reason for unwanted romantic or sexual advances.
• For Forge On Deck AI behavior issues, email support@OnDeckSociety.com with the subject line AI Safety Report.
• For all other issues, email support@OnDeckSociety.com.

Violations of these guidelines may result in a warning, temporary suspension, or permanent termination of your account, depending on the severity and frequency. We reserve the right to make these determinations at our discretion.

12.1 Exclusion is a feature, not a violation

Vilters are a core safety and consent feature of Love On Deck. Every Lover has the unconditional right to decide which categories of people can see their deck. No explanation is required. No appeal is available to anyone who does not pass. This is intentional.

Filtering is silent on both sides. A Lover who does not pass your Vilters is not notified and is not told why. You are never asked to justify your settings. This design matches the way people have always operated in the real world: quietly, without confrontation, without requiring permission from the people they choose not to engage with.

12.2 Your tools, and when to use each

Love On Deck gives you four separate controls. They do different things and they are not interchangeable.

• Vilters. Use these to control which categories of people can see your deck at all. Vilters work before contact is ever possible. Someone who does not pass your Vilters never sees you and never knows you exist.
• Hiding your deck. Use this when you want to step back from discovery entirely. While your deck is hidden, it does not appear in search or discovery and no Lover can open it. Hiding is all or nothing. It applies to everyone at once, it does not target any particular person, and it does not remove you from conversations you are already in. People you have already messaged with will still see your first name, Lover number, and photo in their inbox.
• Blocking. Use this when you want a specific person out of your experience everywhere. Blocking is the only tool that targets one individual across every On Deck Society product. It removes every conversation between you from both inboxes.
• Unmatching, disconnecting, and dismissing. Use these to end one conversation, or a first message, in one product. They delete it for both of you.
• Reporting. Use this when someone violates these Community Guidelines. Reports are reviewed by our team. Blocking, unmatching, disconnecting, and dismissing do not tell us anything, so if the behavior was a violation, report it too.

Whichever you use, our moderation team keeps a private copy of the conversation for 30 days, so we can act on a report for at least 30 days afterward. If someone is harassing you, block them and report them. If you are in immediate danger, contact local law enforcement. We are not an emergency service.

12.3 Non-weaponization

Vilters are a tool for individual consent, not group enforcement. Using them individually, for any reason, is never a violation of these guidelines.

However, if On Deck Society detects a pattern of coordinated exclusions that appear to constitute harassment of a protected class, we reserve the right to investigate and, if warranted, to take action. A protected class for this purpose includes any group protected under applicable anti-discrimination law, including race, ethnicity, national origin, religion, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, disability, age, and veteran status.

The bar for action under this provision is high. Normal use of Vilters, even heavy use, does not trigger it. What triggers it is multiple Lovers acting in concert, through coordination outside the platform, to make it impossible for members of a protected class to find anyone on Love On Deck.

If this ever happens, we will investigate. If the pattern is confirmed, we may reset the offending Lovers' filter settings, suspend or terminate the offending accounts, report the pattern in our next transparency disclosure, and cooperate with law enforcement where coordinated harassment rises to the level of a legal violation.

We have not yet had to invoke this provision and we do not expect to. We publish it so that everyone understands where the line is.

Friends On Deck is for making friends. Everyone who joins agrees to that, in writing, before they can see anyone.

On Friends On Deck, don't:

• Ask anyone out, or pursue dating, romance, or sex
• Send romantic or sexual messages, photos, or compliments that are about attraction
• Treat someone's friendliness as an invitation

If a friendship turns into mutual romantic interest, that's between the two of you. Take it somewhere other than Friends On Deck.

Unwanted romantic or sexual advances on Friends On Deck violate these Guidelines and our Terms of Service, and can get you removed from On Deck Society. If it happens to you, report it using the “Unwanted romantic or sexual advance” reason, and block if you want them gone. We keep ended conversations for 30 days so we can review your report.

We may update these guidelines as our products evolve. Material changes will be communicated through the product interface or by email.

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